Aboriginal - family togetherness
Aboriginal; indigenous; family; togetherness; sister; sharing; respect; mothers; fathers; uncles; grandparents; relatives; extended; elders ;
"Hullo Sis - how you been?"
"Alright, a bit tired, got my minya granny here, his mum is sick, she's been in hospital for a couple of weeks now."
"Hey Sis, you can bring him over here for a couple of days, I'll watch him unna?"
"Yeah c'mon gives you a break, and it would be good for me to see my little nephew!"
You, me, our mothers, fathers, uncles, grandparents and our cousins, we are all one big family. Our family is the place where we learn how to live, how to behave, how to treat people and how to respect everything around us. These teachings we pass on through the generations.
We do this by sharing! When we are sharing our food, or our clothing, our money and even our homes, we are also sharing togetherness and responsibilities, our time, our advice and encouragement, our support and our love! All this allows our kids to know and understand and identify who they are.
Even though we might live in another town or somewhere else, we are all still part of our community and can still help with the 'rearing up' of our kids.
This 'rearing up' is at the heart for us as a community. It lets our kids have close contact with their relatives. Our kids are then able to learn things, and they learn by hearing what we say, watching things being done and by practicing what they have seen and heard. This is a very important and accepted way of our family life, and is a good way for our kids to learn.
To be there for each other and to have this spiritual connection is important.
These things might help
- Make use of our parents, our extended family, especially our elders, for they have lived and learned.
- Teach our kids to identify with and know their extended family.
- Teach our kids how to respect others and why it is important.
- Don't 'knock' but value the differences that each person has.
- Try not to do everything yourself ...share it around.
- Remember it's good to have time together, but it's good to have time by yourself.
- Teach our kids how to do good things by what we do.
These places might be able to help you in South Australia
- Family Well Being Program (08) 8463 4800
- Aboriginal Family Support Services (08) 8212 1112
- Kura Yerlo (08) 8449 7367
- Nunkuwarrin Yunti (08) 8223 5011
- Kalaya Children's Centre (08) 8447 6519
- Kaurna Plains School (08) 8252 4419
- The Sacred Site Within (08) 8242 3687
|Even though today our family unit may have changed,|
and we do not have some or all of our relations around,
we musn't lose sight of the power to love each other,
to respect each other and to learn from each other.
Written by Ingrid O'Loughlin and Parenting SA
Artwork by Ingrid O'Loughlin
Related Aboriginal Parent Easy Guide
(Parenting SA website - PDF format)
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