I think my dad might be an alcoholic, how can I help?
07 Jan 2003

Alcoholism is a disease. An alcoholic is someone who cannot control his drinking. He can learn to control his behaviour, but as of yet there is no cure for alcoholism. The person who is drinking too much may not see his drinking as a problem. He may blame other things for his behaviour and drinking, such as pressure at work, friends and family causing him stress or money issues. These pressures may be true, but the real problem is usually the alcohol.

If a friend of family member has a drinking problem, you need to remember that they are the ones who need to make a change. A process of accepting responsibility and reaching out to support organisations is usually the best way. You can help by talking to them. Choose a time when they are sober and calm. Let them know you are worried, but walk away if it turns into an argument. Let them know about certain support organisations. Alcoholics Anonymous have groups all around the world. In South Australia their number is (08) 8346 3255 or call the Alcohol and Drug Information Service on 1300 131 340.

You also need to look after your self. Don't get into a routine of doing everything for the drinker. Talk to someone you trust about the problems you are facing. Talking to a counsellor could also help. There are organisations and groups for friends and family of alcoholics. In South Australia contact Al-Anon/Alateen on (08) 8231 2959 and (08) 8212 6824.

For further readings see our sections on
Alcohol 
Family breakdown
Relationship - parents

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